I am asking because I don’t know if this agreement is assumed on your part or if he explicitly said, “Yes, you and I are exclusive…” or, better yet, “I want to be exclusive with you.” I’ll explain why I bring that up in a moment, but at any rate I agree with you that checking his dating profile seems out of step with having an exclusive relationship with you…I also wouldn’t even classify this as snooping, per se. You didn’t somehow break into and read his emails or texts.When going on a date, there are several things you should avoid.
Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…
Be selective in the personal details you share with your date.
Don’t give out too many personal details on a first date, as this may scare some people away, but sharing basic information about yourself, such as where you grew up, what you like to do in your spare time, etc., is perfectly acceptable.
Go to a public place (a train station, airport lobby, downtown gathering place) and people watch. If you like, discuss your deepest spiritual beliefs afterwards. Traditionally, parents fill their children’s shoes with treats on St. Try walking in your spouse’s shoes for an evening – perhaps more of a challenge for the husband.
Make up stories about the people who pass you, as if you’re writing a novel. Try to understand life from your spouse’s perspective. Find a book you both enjoy and take turns reading to each other, or each of you can read your own book in each other’s company. Lay out a blanket and have an indoor picnic – or at least some popcorn.